the battle belongs to the strong

So, read another (second in total) case of Chettawut handling poorly one of his rare poor outcomes. So going there in case I cannot get a Suporn date is no longer an option.

That then makes it more bothersome that I still am not sure how that will go – yesterday ninshubur signalled and emailed for a December date, but they have not gotten back to me, so maybe it was caught in a spam filter and I have to somehow email manually.

So now I learned about gmail filters and set all other notifications to silent, but keeping these ones on, and set this as my custom ring tone for SRS date notifications:

It can ring in meetings or at night and I will hopefully catch it. It’s several minutes long.

Fear of complications will always be there. But so would it for a cis woman giving birth.

In other news I have a terrible headache that will not relent. I wonder why.

craze

Had a bit of a breakdown. Of course being overworked and underslept is part, makes me less containment-capable. But I think this is more interesting.

Having started to schedule SRS I run into the problem that the surgeon I decided on has no waiting list. Meaning my only option is to watch the calendar to request dates as they come online. Twice now other people were before me when that happened, in a matter of hours.

This freaks me the everliving fuck out. I panic-worry that I’ll just wait and wait and never get a date and that uncertainty is intolerable. Basically it’s tolerable only if I know I’ve done everything.

This is dysphoria. This is a deep need to finally fix my genitals. It’s desperate now because only now when I decided, do I let myself actually want it, dare believe it can happen. So I’m fully and extremely on edge for it.

What I need is to be able to send the clinic an email from my gmail the minute a suitable date appears. This means I need to poll the site every few minutes. It would have worked from my office workstation but that has no internet connectivity and won’t until at least Monday. Too long. My old lab servers would work but there I can’t install the libraries needed for pip needed for the google mail API, because I can’t sudo. So now I’m reading up on Google’s VM services. If I can access a virtual linux where I am root, then I can set this up.

I then need a cron job calling the Suporn calendar web scraper I wrote earlier this week, some surrounding logic, and the python gmail API to send the email. I’ll probably end up setting this up rather than waiting. I need to know I have done all I can to secure my path to the SRS I need as soon as I can.

I know I’m being overstressed and irrational, but on some level this is still constructive. But I’ll also try to just rest. I’ll be saner tomorrow. And hopefully in possession of a tool that will let me secure a surgery date as soon as possible, having learned several new tech platforms to do it.

Feeling envy, jealousy – cis women get to have anatomy like I need to without going through all this. Cried a lot earlier tonight once I got home. But one way or another I proceed. Nothing will ever stop me for long. I’ll prove that.

gauntlet on ground

So now twice good Suporn dates were announced and I was too late for them. Apparently just a notice app doesn’t cut it, I really need to go full on hacker girl for this.

What’s relevant is how strongly it impacts me. I desperately need this surgery date to be set now. It feels very heavy, very impactful.

Very well. This is who I am. I’ll do whatever I need to get what I want.