Just found this article:

http://www.hawaii.edu/PCSS/biblio/articles/2005to2009/2006-biased-interaction.html

Many things in there, some better, some worse. But the recurring theme of gender identity as being linked to those we parse as same-as-us vs different-from-us, rather than maleness or femaleness as essences definable in themselves, that rings very true to me. Interesting.

Also relevant the misunderstandings of Diamond’s work related, seemingly also by Butler, sadly.