conventional

At my first non-games oriented convention. Did Vulcan femme cosplay with a dear cisfemale friend, interesting and precious (and we looked good) though I do worry in context people will somehow believe I am crossplaying, which begins to matter more that they do not.

Similarly was freaking out with blanked wavy shock/sadness (sudden onset dysphoria?) with my nametag having my deadname. They were nice about changing it though, and it feels good to have/grow the normalcy of participating unquestioned as female.

Then running out of clothes because unprepared, and now experimenting with long tops over short skirts. Concerned with the resulting squareness, and the smallness of my bust when not wearing that one really flattering bra, but this is in a sense an experience I must share at some point with every woman. Moving through it.

In other notes, doing science and drinking overpriced wheat beer.

hosiery

Realized I now fit into a cheap and skimpy velvet dress I bought, and that I wanted to wear it during the party I go to this weekend. Then looked for stockings, and found nice heavy cotton ones, and realized how much I have envied other women for getting to wear them, and how I love the potential for expressing sturdy casual girliness they involve. Then I realized I might as well wear it all to my date tonight, since it’s not in any scope where I am in any way closeted. So now I am on a train wearing stockings and a skimpy velvet dress, dressing like the goth girl I felt sad for not being, and feeling very happy about it. Seem to be escalating, I might spend more time than I thought this winter wearing skirts and dresses. When necessary, can hide beneath my coat. Frivolous but fun.