Ultimately it doesn’t matter why someone is not interested in a particular type of connection. If there is an incompatibility, it means we would have needed to be two different people for a different outcome to be possible. However the incompatibility is understood or described also does not matter. The outcome is what matters, for this aspect in and of itself. There are plenty of valuable aspects of friendship I can experience with a lot of people, which is beautiful and valuable and necessary.
Meanwhile even if I do not perceive myself as flawed for an incompatibility, it reveals what is lacking in my life. And it remains that I must be allowed to be sad for that which is lacking. The fact that for so long I did not is what messed me up. So I’ll be as sad as I want. And I’ll go for all things that help me get closer to where I need.
lost in transition 